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Children are the reflection of parents, JWs and French locals have an agreement that different
cultures do not cause obstacles, and there is no dominant culture. According to Puspowardhani (2008)
each partner makes compromises to keep their dignity in front of their child. This is supported by Rahardjo
(2005) which states that Javanese people manage to negotiate their cultural identities in a social space
that allow them to find common ground, communicate, and influence each other. Essentially, the
differences in international marriages are both a problem and an opportunity to learn, and coping with
cultural conflict is a significant aspect of establishing the quality of the marriage. According to Allendorf
and Ghimire (2013) the quality of marriage is an important part of a happy family. Culture differences
should be embraced and freely accepted, and empathy is required to overcome differences. Each party
should adapt and willing to learned.
In the family, there are important functions that must be carried out, especially in continuing
heredity, social economy, and education. There are two women function in family: (i) economic function
– in Javanese society, earning a living is the husband’s responsibility, and the wife’s role is more about
managing household financial, especially in matters of food and clothing, and (ii) educational function –
the wife is responsible for the informal education provided of her children (Lawang, 1994). The conception
of Javanese women’s characters can be found in Serat Candrarini in Suryadi (1993), and Munir (2002),
who mentioned that Javanese women should have watak gemati (character of love). Culture differences
should be enjoyed and accepted openly, and empathy is needed to be able to overcome them. Each party
should be adopted and have the willingness to learn other cultures. The quality of marriage is an important
aspect of prosperous family life (Allendoff and Ghimire, 2013). As housewives in Javanese culture, women
must always keep their houses and surroundings clean in order to maintain a quiet, cool, and pleasant
household (Notopuro, 1984). When they migrated to France, they must adjust to the French culture. As
previously mentioned, the JWs and the French locals decided to decorate the family room with Javanese
cultural items such as wayang, masks, Loro-blonyo sculptures, batik, Becak miniatures, and Borobudur.
Miniatures. The presence of these Javanese trinkets, which are often purchased by French locals, verified
JW's presence in the household as the wife of French locals and the mother of the Caucasian children.
Implementation of Masak Values

In intercultural marriages, communication is essential in overcoming cultural disparities. There
are 10 major elements that emerge in international communication namely: equality, openness, love
expression, open-mindedness, interpretation, empathy, challenge, enjoyment, adjustment, and snuggling
(Venus, 2013). Essentially, the differences in international marriages are both a problem and an
opportunity to learn. Coping with cultural conflict is a significant aspect of establishing the quality of the
marriage. As mentioned by Allendoff and Ghimire (2013), the quality of a marriage is an important part of
a happy family life. Culture differences should be embraced and freely accepted, and empathy is required
to overcome them. Each party should adapt and willing to learn about the cultural differences.

To grasp the behavioural influence of 3M values, it is necessary to first understand the terms
dominant culture and co-culture. The dominant culture can be found in most cities when referring to a
group of individuals. Dominant culture clearly denotes the group that has the largest effect on beliefs,
perceptions, values, communication patterns, and cultural norms. The existence of instruments of power
that are used to set the societal agendas that majority of people will frequently follow is a hallmark of a
dominant culture. The instrument of power does not have to be based on numerical supremacy, but rather
on the capacity to regulate the major institutions within the culture-governmental, education, economic,

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